I totally get that, Neon. The “hiding” phase is honestly so exhausting. I think the turning point for me was finding a site that actually felt like it was made for adults, not just a mess of malware and weird pop-ups. I use that one you mentioned because it feels curated, which makes it much easier to talk about openly. It’s like the difference between a cheap tabloid and a decent magazine. I’ve found that being transparent about my habits has actually made my dating life way easier too, because I’m not starting things off with a hidden side of myself. It’s just “this is me, take it or leave it,” and people usually respect that honesty more than you’d think.